No One Else Under Your Roof Is Worried About This

Somebody outside your house said it first.

The school raised it, or your pediatrician did.

You’ve had it in your head every day since.

Your teenager hasn’t.

Your Teenager Isn’t Pretending

They aren’t hiding anything from you.

As far as they can tell, things are going fine.

That’s an honest report of the week they had.

You’re the one accounting for next year.

Both of You Are Reading the Same House Correctly

Teenagers measure in weeks.

You’ve been measuring in years since the day it got raised.

The gap between those two readings is where you’re standing right now.

Nothing about that gap means you’re overreacting.

What You Want Is a Quieter House

Peace in the house is the actual request.

For all of you, and not only for your teenager.

Everybody there has been walking on eggshells long enough that it started to feel normal.

That’s the thing worth aiming at.

You Stop Being the Only One Keeping Track

The first change is the temperature of the house.

You quit being the only one tracking this.

You get to go back to being their parent.